Monthly Archives: February 2012

The Day an Owl Visited the India Pied-à-Terre

It’s not just pigeons that bring messages. Owls can too. We know they are wise.

Three of us were in the Chennai apartment debating about ceiling fans (referred to briefly in the previous post) and perhaps we needed a break. We got it, delivered by a loud cardboard crash.

We found an owl on the living room floor, sitting next to a dust-covered box, now etched with the outline of crashed wings. I approached, crouching and asking “are you OK?” Like it’s going to answer.

The owl eyed me while I eyed its wings and legs from a respectful distance, looking for anything askew. My mind whirred. I’ve heard owls at night during our Chicago summers. I’ve seen them in photos and on TV. But never in person, right here. This guy is much bigger than parakeets we’ve had. What if it’s hurt? That beak looks sharp. I spot a towel nearby, to throw over the owl if needed. Can I grab it? Then what do I do with it? What do I put it in? Would I hurt it more while trying to help it?

Where we live near Chicago, there’s a wildlife rehabilitation center in Barrington. We’d go there, and they’d know what to do. Who knows what to do with owls in Chennai? All this, whizzing around my mind within seconds.

The owl probably had its own mind-whizzing going on in whatever way it understands. It decided to flap around the apartment, which feels big enough until a bird with long extended wings starts banging around everywhere … so fast … one wall here, one wall there, crashing into the ceiling … oh gosh, don’t hurt yourself!

We’re now running around, flapping our arms, everyone and everything flapping. I run to a big balcony door and open it, showing the owl, talking to the owl, here …  here … here’s how you get out. Now it sat atop the kitchen cabinets, resting.

We had a moment to let the situation soak in:

There’s an owl in the apartment and now we feel really responsible for it.

The owl knows how to take care of itself though. Once it had a chance to survey its surroundings and its options, it flew gracefully and purposefully across the place to an open window. Relief flew over us as it took flight back into the open air where it belongs. Relief was very short-lived though. As you see in this video … ravens awaited … you can see them circling, circling:

We hadn’t noticed so many ravens until they flew after the owl. Watching carefully, you can see them fly off to the upper left. Now I felt sick. We don’t know what happened, but my husband thinks far off in the distance, he saw the owl out-fly the predators.

Later downstairs, Amma said it’s a good omen to be visited by an owl, and good things will happen. The timing was full of serendipities — this was the first day both of us were in the India apartment together, having flown halfway around the world to see it after 18 months of construction. It was also the one-year anniversary of my husband’s grandmother’s death. For Hindus this could certainly bring wonderings about the young owl’s intentions.

We heard later that our nephew saw the owl being chased by ravens and it flew through his second-floor porch but not through his open apartment door (everyone keeps their doors open). The owl then avoided another open apartment door below us, and went out of its way to fly up around the staircase, around a corner, and through our open door. It was not the flight path of least resistance. At the time our nephew thought the owl, despite being chased by ravens, was specifically aiming for our apartment.

We wanted to believe our visitor was a good omen. But what did the presence of the ravens bring? What did that mean? If you’re going to be superstitious, you can’t be selectively superstitious only in your favor. This weighed on us. Ultimately, while thinking about what it all meant, my husband got some insight into business troubles he was having. Literally, he felt ravens were picking away at his business. He now saw with clarity that he needed to shake the ravens off, that they weren’t going to change. They are what they are. In the months since, he’s made moves to shake the ravens and get his business into more of a safe haven, under one roof. It’s led him in the right direction. See what wisdom owls can bring …

About these ads

Interior Door Details … and, Trust Issues

(WARNING: Periodically I post a venting blog with many words. This is one of them. Because not everything is pretty. Plus perhaps this will help someone else some day. Scroll past to the pretty pictures at the end if you want to!)

Usually “interior doors” and “trust” aren’t in one sentence. Unless you’re speaking of trusting someone to not open a locked door. Currently that’s a non-issue for us as the India apartment doesn’t even have interior doors yet:

The current state of the entrance to the apartment's master bedroom.

My trust issue is whether doors we design would be created as intended. We’ve now run into many instances of “creative license” that did not fulfill our original intentions. (Admittedly some creative license has made our ideas better, and we’re able to accept that when we see it.) Things get frustrating when people not only don’t follow what you give them, it’s like they never bothered to look at the design at all:

On the right: Inspiration image given to carpenter, with instructions to *not copy exactly* as this is a commercial product. We said we wanted wider base and top for necessary stability, with thinner graceful curved post. On the left: What we got. Kind of chunky. Makes the granite look paper-thin. It also reminds me of the windows at Angkor Wat, hardly the Tuscan kitchen we're goin' for.

This breaks my heart because I know they’re proud of what they created. Why do people keep putting us in the position of asking them to scrap their work, start over and follow the instructions? People’s faces fall. It’s tough all around. I feel like a jerk. But the truth is, someone we hired and paid didn’t do what we paid them to do. But I still feel like a jerk.

It’s happened enough times that I now have a major trust problem.

Avoidance is a good protective tactic, right? If we don’t want to feel like  jerks, stop getting in situations where we become jerks. Usually my behavior is “too nice too often,” but I am fully capable of throwing all notions of “saving face” out the window, waving arms and scrunching my face in very annoyed dismissal when presented with something that’s not at all what we seek. I forget the person may be proud of what they did. I forget my behavior might make them feel pretty bad. (But shoddy work, that’s another scene altogether and guilt-free!) Unfortunately my last moment in the India apartment in December was a moment of such disappointment, punctuated with stalking out of the place to emphasize that what was said, was really really meant (yes body language can write many kinds of punctuation points). It was a diva moment. And I am not proud. I don’t wear diva well — it’s a coat three sizes too big for me.

But I do have diva aspirations:  to get exactly what I want. Getting the interior doors we want could be a mountain to climb. This process hasn’t been all pretty Internet inspiration pictures — we’ve been climbing uphill each step of the way, and it’s so tiring. I now consider ordering plain doors, then finishing/adapting/ornamenting them ourselves DIY-style after installation. It’s how you keep control when you no longer trust.

Our architect referred us to one of his door suppliers, whom we visited and were confronted with doors that look like doors in our Chicago home:

The most door-saturated view in our house.

They said this is what people want. But I’m not making our Southern India apartment look like the American Midwest. Heck, no.

The door supplier showed us what one creative customer did with a plain door — they routed shallow lines across it for a contemporary home:

OK, something different, now we're gettin' somewhere.

The door supplier said they don’t modify their designs — they suggested our carpenter modify a plain door for us. Who? Our carpenter who created the kitchen island post above? I don’t think so. Further if a door were delivered with splotches all over it like this one, I’d just freakin’ arm-wave freak out all over the place.

So what to do?

Maybe we’d finally been “ground down to nothing” after weeks of intense negotiating with a whole cast of people, trying to protect and shepherd our visions into reality. Including two 45-minute conversations about where to place the ceiling fan in the master bedroom — two! For a total of 1.5 hours. Unfortunately more was involved than just saying “put it on the ceiling, right there.” There’s a whole blog post in that conversation, but I’m awaiting installation and the next trip to Chennai to photograph and explain how while some assymetry is exciting, other assymetry is unsettling. My trust problem makes me wonder if the electrician will install the ceiling fan where he wants it to be, though.

So after this, at our meeting with the door contractor, I couldn’t imagine how to get from ”Point A” to not just “Point B” but a point that felt much further. More like “Point Q.” To a point they hadn’t seen before. Normally I enjoy that challenge, it’s what I thrive on, making the unseen and unknown into something real. I am unafraid of facing that. But this time I said, “hold off on the doors for now.” Let’s take a break. Let’s deal with it on the next trip.

Now it’s time to gather ideas for the next trip. Once we settle on an idea, then we’ll figure out how to make it happen. Here’s inspiration for our interior doors (I’m noticing I’m drawn mostly to Northern India doors) …

Of course, I’m loving the doors posted previously in Cher’s Indian Fantasy Home:

North India doors found at D Home magazine and available (for a lotta $) at Art of Old India, made of teak and inlaid mother of pearl:

If you can’t afford the real antique doors, this look can be achieved with paint and stencils.

These doors are northern Indian from the 19th century, via Doris Duke Foundation, Honolulu Academy of Arts:

Via Milano Doors:

Blue Moroccan door leading to bedroom, original source unknown (do you know?), found at Châtaigne:

Clearly I’m favoring some kind of repetition of design on interior doors.

And, notice that doorframes are just as important as the doors.

For many more images, follow along at my Pinterest Board: Interior Door Inspiration for India Apartment:

And also Pinterest Board: Entrances which shows doors and gates from around the world:

Pin Up Girl Friday: Decorating Inspiration for India Apartment

Each Friday, I invite you to a Pinterest Board that I hope opens a world of inspiration for you. What I love about Pinterest is it makes sharing so much easier — and clears a little room on our hard drives too.

So today, welcome to the images that inspire decorating ideas for our India apartment in Chennai:

As of today, there are 280 images of rooms, furniture, accessories, textiles, walls, paint effects and various other things with something that struck me as inspiring for our place in India. But I’m always pinning more, so follow along there if you want more images in the future!

The India Pied-à-Terre and its Hardware

Those following along here for awhile may see I took a break from blogging about completing the Chennai, India apartment. There has been no progress since mid-December, honestly, when we returned to the States from the last trip. We’ve found it’s difficult – really difficult — to get quality work when we’re not there supervising in person. We’d rather stop the work than rip out and re-do.

The apartment is stuck in a pergatory state between finished enough to be nearly habitable, but still uninhabitable. For example, we got to the point of installing a copper farmhouse sink in the kitchen. The whole kitchen is nearly done. But we had to leave before essentials like hooking up faucets, toilets, etc.

There are stories to tell about why we’re stuck at this stage – stories of trust issues, disappointment, even dismay. I’ve hesitated to speak those stories, but will soon because they’re part of the process, and good to know for anyone else who dares tread where we’ve now been.

One part that makes me happy is simple: hardware! We’re choosing unique hardware. I think of it as jewelry for the place.

It starts with the hardware on the antique main door. The doorknocker:

The lock and key. Yes this really is the key, and it’s a big thing to haul around; you’re looking at only about a third of it sticking out here:

Here’s the whole door. Pardon our dust there, it’s still a construction zone:

Here’s the back of the main door. I admit I was shocked at first to see this. It’s so … rustic country. But I grew to really like it, and as it’s very prominent visually, it will drive the look of the foyer/visitor’s room area. This door is over 100 years old and those shiny silver bolts are new and quite incongruent, yeah? On our next trip, I’ll give those shiny bolts the antiquing treatment:

There’s a cabinet set into the wall by this door where we can store shoes. I found camelbone pulls in Cochin for the cabinet doors, but forgot to photograph them.

Elsewhere in the apartment, there are cabinet doors to hide the clothes washer/dryer. We found these Buddha hand door pulls at Crafter’s in Cochin for those cabinet doors:

I can’t wait to install them!

Tahir Hardware in Chennai is hardware heaven! We found handles for the four interior doors there. But it almost wasn’t to be.  A current running through all our shopping in India was this:  What we like, others don’t like. What others like, we don’t like. And there are a lot more “others” than there are the two of us. So guess what, we shopped in a sea of shiny silver chrome, all spanking new looking. But what we want looks old. We got some odd looks. Why would we want old? Maybe it’s because in the U.S. we’ve always had access to the “new” — it’s nothing new to us. What’s new to us is the old stuff. We’re just on different design trajectories here.

Naturally, smart retailers — even all the small single-shop guys all over India – stock what the market wants. Thus what we wanted was rarely available in stock (we heard “discontinued” A LOT) and it seemed to be a bother to order it.

At Tahir, after manhandling all the handles, I fell for this curvy beauty:

These handles look good and they feel wonderful in your hands.  The sales guys went to place the order. Then they came back. Everyone was speaking intense Tamil, then I got updated. My husband said they’re not in stock. “That’s not funny,” I said, positive he was joking. “No, really, they’re not in stock.” “Then why are they on the wall,” I said, reeling and thunderstruck. The salespeople tried to sway me toward another style, another color. Including the shiny silver chrome. But it just wouldn’t do. I had already found The One. It was too late. There is no Substitute. I looked for more floor samples. “Can we take floor samples?” If we could find enough, sure, they said. We could not. Ugh.

They saw my disappointment. They probably overheard me saying I’d look up the source and find somewhere else to get the brass color handles. They kindly talked to the owner. They arranged to special order four of these handles. Happiness! Otherwise happiness would have ensued anyway, as I would have researched the manufacturer and tracked them down myself.

But the story doesn’t stop there. My husband rightfully decided it’s a good idea to check with the architect that these handles would work with the doors. The architect said “Oh no no no, you don’t want those handles.” Oh, yes yes yes I do! Why wouldn’t I want them? The architect said they’re way too expensive. We should be able to get handles for $8. This, the architect who told us he works with wealthy people and our project is “small” but he likes us so he will spend time on our place. Surely he has clients who spend more than $8 on doorknobs? Further, the price of these handles is reasonable considering our benchmark is United States prices.

Finally, this is our India pied-à-terre. The $8 doorknobs that look just like those on the doors of our Chicago home do not belong here:

When we’re in India, I want to know I’m somewhere else in the world. I’m not interested in the oak kitchen cabinets and five panel doors and other style reminders of the midwestern United States. I want to be in India. And so, it shall be.

Here’s more hardware admired at Tahir. These are intended for main doors, I believe, and so they’re wild-crazy-big for wardrobe handles. But I really like the idea of these for wardrobe door handles:

Our apartment will be spare. There won’t be many furnishings because we’ll visit only a few weeks a year. So it makes sense to dress her up with hardware jewelry, right? When you wear a simple Little Black Dress, you complement it with special jewelry.

So the hardware story will go on. Tahir will see me again sometime. There will be odd looks. And questions. “Why would you want such big handles for wardrobes? Those are not wardrobe handles. It will not look right. Here, let me show you …”  and I’ll oblige and go and look and nod. But I’ll still steer back to the handles I want. Because you know what, when you have a vision, you just gotta stand your ground.